It was impossible not to run into him or walk by without being stopped for a moment of short exchange. He was always—I really mean always—greeting people and giving compliments. Not only to his neighbours or people passing him in the hallway, but also to those who were taking care of him after his illness made him totally dependent on others.
His health prognosis was very grim. Many of us would turn bitter, angry or depressed—maybe even rude—but not him. He was consistent in his kindness, consideration and respect for others.
Peter (name changed) was a young man, and many would think and say that his fate was very unfortunate.
He had an incurable disease. It left him unable to do the simplest things many of us take for granted, like the ability to chew, swallow or speak. He was fully aware that things were gradually turning for the worse.
He used to regularly attend my sessions. One day, at the end of one of those sessions, he told me, “You make us think.” That was such surprising feedback. I can’t begin to tell you how powerfully these words resonate with me today.
I had just talked to him last week. I sat near him and held his hand. He told me he was afraid to die. He knew the end of his life was near. He was aware.
Trying to minimize his fear, I shared with him my experience of death and what I know about it—which I seldom share with others—to which he replied, “You are right, I remember now. My mom’s spirit came to me after she died.” Silence filled the room, and I sensed calmness within him.
After a long pause, with enormous effort he shared, “You touched my heart.” My eyes welled up with tears.
A moment later, with his consent, I blessed him, and then he gently pulled his hand out of mine—a clear indication that the visit was over.
The next day he was gone. He passed on.
Now we all recall his so-called corny compliments, shared with us every day. They became Peter’s legacy.
When you think about it, the words we utter are very important. Some, spoken in truth and with positive intent, can give hope, upliftment and joy to others. Other words, when ill-intended, can cause long-lasting damage and enormous suffering. Words carry power.
Words matter—they can change lives for better or worse. Peter knew that.
He left a beautiful legacy with each and every one of us. He gave us countless gifts. His beautiful words are locked in our memories and our hearts forever.
He knew they would do that.
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